First think never ask for advice, from friends or relatives. They are all going to try to help you through a bad time. Cause thats what everone does. To cope, sometimes you just have to face things, and sort them out. After a 23 year marriage I did. Lost a ton to my xwife, but the come up, and you take that breath. Dont go to a ton of parties, or anything like that. Remember you have lost someone, like death you need that time to Grieve.